Finding Your Why And Living It

Finding Your Why And Living It

Welcome to this podcast, Your Life By Design, a proven system to live fully and finally achieve your best year ever. I’m going to help you get more productive, set awesome goals and achieve the life of your dreams. I’m Dr. Sundardas D. Annamalay, CEO of the NTC Alliance Group of Companies, author of Life by Design and Founder of the Freedom Formula: Mastering Energy, Money, and Leverage in Nine Steps. I’m a naturopathic physician and professor of natural medicine, practicing in Singapore. I also mentor coaches, trainers and experts building their expert businesses.

Why is it that some people continue to fall deeper and deeper in love with their spouse and have a powerful connection with their kids, while others find themselves growing more and more distant in their most important relationships? How is it that some people always seem to have an abundance of energy, always traveling to beautiful places and living a fascinating life, full of contribution and meaning? They are busy learning and teaching. Why are some people able to quickly grow their businesses or advance their careers, while others are working hard, but never really making a forward progress they know they are capable of? Others are stuck in an endless loop of complaining and blaming because they find themselves drifting through life, swept up in the daily routine they never imagined living. I’m about to show you how, if you want, you can make this next year your best year ever. I’ve created multiple profitable businesses, written a few Amazon bestsellers, and won three entrepreneurship awards in a row.

To date, I have seen outwards to 15,000 people individually from 30 countries. Our clients include some of the richest people in Southeast Asia and Asian royalty. I’ve helped generate 25 million in sales for companies that I’ve consulted for in the area of health and wellness. Before outlying the core foundational elements of this process, it’s important to know where this came from. The seeds of this were planted many years ago. For the first six months of my life, they feed me through my nose through a feeding tube. The surgery started within six months. The surgeries and the drugs continued for many years. At six, I was speech handicapped, hearing handicapped and right lobe brain damaged. I have Asperger’s, so I didn’t really understand emotions and was blind to the finer human sense of emotion. I only knew that I could depend on my mother to be reliable and knew what’s needed to be done.

Then the unthinkable occurred. It was towards the middle of my thirteenth year that my mom fell ill with cancer. She was admitted to the general hospital about six months later after the initial cancer diagnosis has the cancer spread. I saw my mother deteriorating before my eyes. That experience created the determination that I will do something to make a difference. I was fourteen when my mother died and I became quite depressed and almost suicidal. I had to decide if I was in control of my life or if I was just a helpless log in the torrent of life. Instead, I came to the conclusion that there was an underlying pattern. I decided I’m going to fix myself. I was going to find the most effective patterns and programs. I was going to learn how to read people, even if I could not feel emotions. I was going to train my body, even if I had two left feet. I was going to find the cure for cancer.

The one advantage autistics have is focus and pattern recognition. I created a mathematical model by fifteen to read body language. I started retraining my brain with mathematics language and martial arts. I started looking for the fastest and most effective ways to take in information, process it, and create patterns I could use. I was not only crushed, but I was also determined. When it all came through it, I made a silent vow in my heart. I said, “I will never depend on anyone else.” I didn’t realize it at that time, that that vow became the driving force of my life and here is the truth, I overcorrect it. I way overcorrect it. It seems the next morning I became an adult overnight.

I wanted control because it felt like everything in my life was suddenly out of control. Fast forward, ten years later, the fourteen-year-old autistic with speech and hearing disabilities and brain damage with two left feet was now a 24-year-old with a physics degree, with superior reflexes, and has represented the university in dance. I started my own business after I completed my training as a naturopathic physician. I was full of myself, but I was also in control and there was a broken part of me that needed that. Then I got married. I was working with my postgraduate degrees, running my business and looking after my stepson.

 

 

Within the next six years, I was on a fast track program in natural medicine and became the youngest professor in natural medicine in my college. However, remember I’m autistic, so I still did not really socialize or get along with people outside of work. My attitude was if you found me and I could help you, great, but I’m not going to go out of my way to see if I could be of service. Along the way, as I was training and looking for the cure for cancer, I was still hung up over how my mom died. Finally, when I was doing postgraduate work with Dr. Thomas Rau, who runs the Paracelsus Clinic in Switzerland, I realized now I should focus on preventing cancer. At about 36, I had this realization that far better than curing cancer was catching the seeds that lead to chronic illness.

Life was stressful and fast, providing for a family and trying to build a business was tough. I got wrapped up in my drive to succeed and soon I found the very thing I didn’t want to have happened to me was happening. Now, I was a person checking up. It caused challenges in my family. My wife and I went through marital challenges. Eventually, as the business began to succeed, my marriage fell apart. This happens very often to compulsive people. After that point, my life demonstrated two unhelpful ways of approaching life. I called the first one coasting along. That was how my father approached life. He was swept up in the current, coasting along, not choosing his destination by ending up in a place he never would have chosen if he had consciously been aware of it. That’s exactly how I had decided I was never going to live my life.

Unfortunately, that’s how a lot of people approach life. They are just operating automatically. They are caught up in life’s distractions. They’re not thinking about where they might be going and before long they end up in a destination they would not have chosen if they were conscious of what they were doing. It might be a health crisis or a marital crisis or maybe a business failure or a career upset, but they end up in a destination far from what they thought they were going. Fast forward a few more years, when I was about 40, I got separated from my wife. I lived out the life of a young man I had never been. Just when I found the woman of my dreams, a devastating life-threatening infection struck.

Finally, as I lay dying, freezing in the cold of the ICU, I could finally feel all the meaning, love, joy, and support that had been all around me, but my autistic brain could never comprehend until that magical moment in time. I found my true purpose in life calling. I wanted to make sure others did not have to go through the journey and pain I went through to find meaning and purpose in their lives. I took almost five years to recover and at that time my struggling clinical practice boomed and I won multiple business awards. Five years later, as I was working on my schedules for the forthcoming year, I realized I was grossly overcommitted again. I had been living the compulsive life.

I recognize that all my patients and clients had the same issues I had in a hundred different ways. They lost track of what truly that meant in their lives. I found that until people find their why, they don’t really live. They merely exist going through the motions of life. At that point, I made a commitment to focus on my core priority. Suddenly, I had time to exercise daily and lose all the extra weight, go on movie dates with my wife monthly instead of bi-annually, plus our companies became more profitable and I ended up with more offers. It really comes down to making that one single core commitment instead of it spread in a thousand different directions.

This total commitment for that core priority is what I teach in my program, The Freedom Formula: Mastering Time, Energy, and Leveraged in Nine Steps. I’ve spoken in more than ten countries around the world. I’ve been on the stage with keynote speakers. All these apart from creating a medical screening software system, as well as publishing scientific papers and being a professor. However, all these are not enough to reach those who could benefit from my life experiences. I realized if I wanted to get my message of finding the core priority in your life out to more people, I needed to do it differently. I could only see so many people in my clinic, seminar programs or other talks I did. Most people will never be able to fly down and work with me on the one-to-one as my clients do. I still want to do what I can to make sure that at least you have a choice of living your life differently.

 

On every podcast, I will be sharing what my private one-on-one clients get when they work with me. One of my clients flew her family down in a private jet to work with me for one week. Others book their slots six months in advance. You won’t have to do any of that, just tune in to Your Life By Design Podcast. Do yourself a huge favor, take a piece of paper right now. Write down the one thing that stops you from designing your life. Write this down, keep it in an envelope, date it and look at it in 90 days’ time.

The focus of this podcast is to reveal how you can stop feeling overwhelmed, accomplish what matters most, and finally realize your potential and there is no better time than now to set the stage for your success over the next twelve months. The last thing I want is for you to think that just by writing down your goals on a napkin in the New Year’s Eve party or announcing your resolutions on Facebook at the beginning of the year, you’ll magically accomplish big goals. You and I know that thinking is flawed and the statistics prove it.

Did you know that 25% of people abandoned their New Year’s resolutions after just one week? 60% give up within six months. It’s the same reason the average person makes the same New Year’s resolution ten separate times without success. I’m not here to give you false hope. I am here to share with you a proven system of success, to take you by the hand and lead you in accomplishing your life goals in order to help you live the life of your dreams. Relationships break down. There are two million marriages in the USA and about one million divorces. 95% of divorces are caused by lack of communication. The average person spends less than two minutes with your partner. The average working person spends less than 30 seconds with their children. Most people will spend more time choosing a dress or a car or planning for a holiday.

In 2014, there were 2.5 million people who died in the US, and 75% are from causes that are preventable, obesity, alcohol and smoking. They never planned for another type of lifestyle. The statistics about the income levels people retire at is not encouraging. By 65, 1% are wealthy, 4% are financially fit, 5% are still working, 28% are dead, and 62% are flat broke. I really don’t want you to become another statistic as I read in the papers or I get interviewed about or a caller of one of my many television programs. I want you to have a different trajectory in your life.

One lucky listener that posts a review on iTunes will win a private confidential consultation and coaching with me on discovering your soul’s purpose. I will lead you on a personal journey to discover your unique mind, body and a psychosomatic map of your life. You will get a detailed report and a personal 45-minute consultation with me that is worth thousands. On this podcast, I’m going to help you design a life that works, so you are able to say yes to the things that matter and eliminate everything else that slows you down. The more clear you can be about how to organize your daily life to support your bigger vision, the more you step into your true potential, stay on track, and accomplish all that you want and deserve.

Are you ready to make that happen? It could mean reconnecting or reviving a meaningful relationship that’s lost its spark or now feels distant. It could also mean getting into the best shape of your life, physically, mentally and emotionally. That could mean reaching new levels financially in your business or making major advancements in your career. You know deep down that there is this enormous potential below the surface of your life, but there is a barrier, blockade or blind spot that keeps getting in the way. Feel free to reach out to me to ask questions at AskDrSun.com. Your life is a gift, design it. Do what matters and join me each week as we get closer to designing the life of your dreams. I’m Dr. Sun. Join me next week on Your Life By Design.